relationships

How to Change Your Life and Everyone In It - Michelle Weiner Davis

This book provides methods you can use to improve your life and your relationships even if your partner doesn't participate. By making small changes in how to act and in your own worldview, those around you will also change. This is a good book to read if you want to make changes but your partner is unable or unwilling to do so.

Link: http://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Life-Everyone-How/dp/0684824698

Outgrowing the Pain Together - Eliana Gil

This book is targeted at the partners of abuse survivors (including but not liited to childhood sexual abuse). It provides guidance i 8 major areas:

    Anger management
    Safe and successful ways to express feelings
    The dangerous trigger words: what are they; what they do
    Touching or being touched: no more fear; no more guilt
    Good sex: Loving, fulfilling intimacy
    Decision-making and power: equal partners at last
    Ending the silence: communication that worked
    Commitment: being able to count on tomorrow

Link: http://www.amazon.com/Outgrowing-Pain-Together-Eliana-Gil/dp/0440503728

Angry spouses/partners - Thinking clearly

This web site - aish.com - is the largest Jewish learning site, features articles and audio segments on spirituality, parenting, dating, weekly Torah portion, Holocaust studies, and Ask the Rabbi. This specific article has to do with tips on dealing with an angry spouse; there are more articles on marriage & relationships on the site.

Link: http://www.aish.com/family/marriage/Thinking_Clearly_in_the_Face_of_Ang…

Recovery from Abuse

This website targets 'pastors and other religious professionals' with information about abuse, how it affects survivors, and ,notably, how it affects family members and family dynamics. While it is targeted to pastors religious professionals, much of the information is not specific to religion at all. In the Family Member section it has some good information on how spouses of abused persons are affect, and in the Family Dynamics section it talks about three different roles a survivor may take on in the family, and discusses the effects of each of those roles.

Although the journals, books and research cited are a bit dated, this site is a good overview of abuse and how it affects survivors, partners and families.

Link: http://www.recoveryfromabuse.com/wordpress/